1 John 3:14-18
“Little children, let us not love with word or with tongue, but in deed and truth.” (3:18)
Reading through N. T. Wright‘s work on ethics (or as he would prefer, his work on virtue), I came across this powerful passage. In the culture wars the word “tolerance” is volleyed around a lot. Not sure on what most people use as a working definition of that word, but it has always struck me as very sterile term. Never read a more powerful contrast between it and genuine love than in these words by Wright. Take a moment to really read and to digest this.
From After You Believe: Why Christian Character Matters (p. 254.):
“Forgiveness is held as a virtue by many in our world, in a way which is quite foreign to some other worldviews. (I recall the shock on being told by a friend in the Middle East that forgiveness had never been seen as a good thing there.) We know we don’t do it, by and large, but we think we should. The result of this, unfortunately, is that we have developed a corollary that is neither love nor forgiveness–namely, tolerance.
The problem with this is clear: I can “tolerate” you without it costing me anything very much. I can shrug my shoulders, walk away, and leave you to do your own thing. That, admittedly, is preferable to my taking you by the throat and shaking you until you agree with me. But it is certainly not love.
Love affirms the reality of the other person, the other culture, the other way of life; love takes the trouble to get to know the other person or culture, finding out how he, she, or it ticks, what makes it special; and finally, love wants the best for that person or culture.
It was love, not just an arrogant imposition of alien standards, that drove much of the world to oppose the apartheid regime in South Africa. It was love, not a dewy-eyed anti-business prejudice (though that’s what they said to him at the time), that drove abolitionist William Wilberforce to protest against the slave trade. It is love, not cultural imperialism, that says it is dehumanizing and society-destroying to burn a surviving widow on her husband’s funeral pyre, or to kill the daughter who has eloped with a man of a different religion or race.
Love must confront “tolerance” and insist, as it always had done, on a better way.”
Well said! Do more than “tolerate” people today… go out and love them in deed and truth.